yeah that's what im looking for,
ones with outs
Get the Psychological Sudelties (book one) and PAY ATTENTION to what Steve says in the opening pages about how to mask the force in ways that give you an instant out and/or the success or failure don't matter so much, you can just continue with patter that moves things in an alternate direction or else repeat a variation to the first force, etc.
Understand that not everyone has the knack to make these things work, some of us having to work a bit harder than others and too, we find ourselves having to "re-write" the concepts shared in those books. As an example, when working in the Nashville area some years ago, when I attempted to do the Rose force people kept saying "Gardenia" -- it is a cultural and regional oddity that can happen, you just need to pay attention when you are experimenting and keep your own notes as to what the majority of folks do respond with in that it may be a matter of local influence.
As to "outs" don't get too used to having the safety net. I know why people like them but I also know that it sets you up psychologically, to never trust the nuances associated with this kind of method. However, when the force is important I will use an out of some form, frequently (depending on how I want things to look) having more than one such advantage in play. My most common out however, is to simply use a swami, pocket/double-writing in that they are the simplest and most convenient way around things.
Understand that this and ranged force methods are never 100% and depending on how you are using them (I'll assume you're looking at Mentalism) a miss isn't always a bad thing. Mentalists that have misses or near hits tend to be viewed as being more "real" or "genuine" than those that have a 100% (or even 95%) hit ratio. . . but that's a whole different can of worms.
There's a book sold by Hades Publications in Canada, if I recall correctly the author's last name is Shantz and the book is about Contact Mind Reading (Muscle Reading). In his routine outline he refers to this very issue and offers several clever bits that are legit but have a fail-safe built into them. Granted, this pertains to both, the topic at hand as well as learning Muscle Reading, but it may very well help you with some means of overcoming said learning curve.