I would start with sleight of hand and once that is well into, i would go into flourishing.
I started with a book and that seemed to me to be the best way.
Here is my recommendation for starting magic:
1. Get Royal Road to Card Magic the Book. It is cheaper and has the same material. (once you have this i dont find a need for Born to Perform)
2. Michael Ammars material is good. You got some, you know that its pretty good.
3. Card College the Books are a great investment. Lots of reading but why not.
4. Here on, i would get DVDs of a bit harder level such as Simon Lovells DVDs. They arent all that special, but they do have a few gems inside. Joshua Jay also has a few good things packed inside his beginner material which you can find at Penguinmagic
5. Once you got all the card sleights and what not done, I would look up David Williamson, Gregory Wilson, and David Stone. These are 3 of my favorite magicians. They have great material, they teach well, and they also have great advice.
6. Once you have all that practiced and what not, you are pretty intermediate. From here on, it is just seeing other people perform and see what you like and dont like. You then decide what DVDs you want based on the description and your needs. It really depends if you rather gambling moves or magic or whatever. I usually go for more tricks and sleights than better teaching. I rather rewind the DVD a few times and learn more, rather than learn on the first watch and learn only a few things.
Note: I find books are better than DVDs. They usually cost less if a set has been made after them, they seem to be more "cozy". They usually have more material than the DVD version (notes, advice, anecdotes, etc.) and they usually look good on your book shelf.
Flourishing: Flourishing is a totally different segment of cards. I find magic more rewarding and interesting. Flourishes are "cool. your hands are sweet" but magic is "HOLY MOTHER! HOWD YOU!?!?!?!??!". I learn flourishes as a method of self satisfaction as mastering a move makes you feel good inside. I also throw in 1 or 2 false cuts in my magic just to spice things up. So starting, i would say.
1. Get the book Encyclopedia of Card Flourishes. This is written by one of the best flourishers ever. The book is packed with material with everything you would ever want to know (spreads, finger joints, catches, aerials, 2 hand cuts, 1 hand cuts, etc)
2. I would then go get The System by The Bucks or get Brian Tudor's Show Off 1-2, and Generation Extreme. (dont get Show off 3, its more of a DVD showing how good he is, rather than learning anything)
3. I would then get Motion by Daniel Madison.
4. Here on is just seeing what you like and deciding upon whether or not to get it. Xtreme Beginners is overly beginner. They spend like 30 minutes talking about flourishing environment and bs. Jerry's book is way more worth your money.
Notes: I dont find much satisfaction in buying flourish DVDs as they usually cost a lot and I just dont get the "ah... learnt something new today" feel. If you go for the Trilogy, dont get the magic DVD, i dont find it worth the money. The Flourishing and the other one is good, but not the magic.