Steer, I think you are operating from an idealized position that assumes that everyone works like you do. They do not. While I am sure your approach is rewarding for you, not everyone has the resources, abilities, or work ethic that you may. To assume that what works for you will specifically work for them will not help.
As to the spoon feeding issue, Suzanne Langer's Philosophy in a New Key. Rather than spoon feeding you the answer, may I encourage you to check out this book. Not only could it have a profound impact on how you approach magic from an artistic perspective, but she will explain why this notion of "intentionally obscuring information otherwise desired to be imparted" run counter to ...well, I've said to much.
Seriously, great book and based on what you have written and how you have written it I think for you personally you might get a lot out of it.
Brad