I totally feel for you bro and their loss. I really respect the fact you want to be in a place to lighten the situation. Look at magic as not something to HELP cheer them up but as a way to give a lesson in life and love.
Story time...
I was in NY filming one of my DVDs with Kozmo magic and in the hotel I was staying at they had a wake with dinner and drinks and what not. I had no idea what they were there for and I was really bored at the time so I thought I would strike up a conversation with one of the people there. No intention on doing any magic jist wanted to talk to another human being. After about 5 minutes I found out the woman I was talking to buried her father that day and they were all together for the wake. I knew a card trick or some moving objects were not the right thing for what they were experiencing, but a torn and restored was jist what was needed. So I told her that I was deeply sorry for her loss and took the tissue she was using to wipe her tears and ripped it while talking about the fragile state of any human,her memories she had of her father how it was important to not let them get TORN from her life, that every breath and waking moment she shared should be cherished and thought about , that at the time those memories seemed trivial and useless much like the torn tissue she had balled up in her hand.
But now those memories are key to bringing her father to her anytime she wants,
because that is what makes her whole ( I had her open up her hand and open the fully restored napkin) as a person and as a human being.
I hugged her and hugged many family members afterwards.
His son came up to me and said "dad loved magic ,the fact you are here shows us he is here..thank you so much" It was so deeply moving I started crying as well.
I learned a very important lesson that day, magic is the strongest way to tell the truth about life, love and death. And instead of LOOKING to DO a trick for someone I saw that if you look closely you can find a way to present this art in every form of life..are you looking closley?
Thats why a good magician will show you a trick to fool you.
A GREAT magician will present life as it unfolds in a way that truly touches a beings soul.
For your situation do not TRY and DO anything Jist offer yourself to let life teach you a lesson and maybe jist maybe life will ask for a hand.
But please tread carefully as death is the strongest fear of any human and there has to be a time for hard, soul wrenching grieving for the family. They had buried her dad that day so the family had been in that state for a while..i was jist glad i could help life out a little and I knew the signs to look for.
be a friend
be a shoulder
be ready if your needed, but don't do anything if its not your time.
How will you know? Life will show you.
JM