Getting a kiss, easy; getting a DATE? Still easy. That's how I usually pick up girls.
people who say it like that,are usually the people who cant get one.
Getting a kiss, easy; getting a DATE? Still easy. That's how I usually pick up girls.
Is that what this forum has become, a bash for all to every question you don't agree with. .
Seriously guys you're better than this.
Not to mention the obvious logical fallacy in saying "just use your personality, be yourself.". Call me crazy but if you do magic doesn't that count as a part of who you are? Just so long as you know where the on and off buttons are on your magic machine and know when to press them you're fine.
Also, I'd probably like to punch most of them in the face because people like them are the reason so many guys who want and need help are afraid to ask.
I've been ignored before
the success rate is fairly low
anyone who has any tips?
An important detail to me with doing magic is if the effect and performance is congruent with your personality. If you aren't the type of person that can casually ask a girl for a kiss on the cheek without doing magic then that is probably why its not working out with the magic. Its kind of a catch 22 in that respect. You can literally achieve anything as long as you can successfully bring a spectator into your reality and you can keep the effects relevant to that reality.
tl;dr: If you need magic to get a girl, its really not going to work for you.
even more simplified: SWAGGER UP!
If the performance piece fits well with the request then I don't see anything overly wrong with it.
However if the goal is to pick up on women and get affections because you did a magic trick then the goal has shifted from performance to self gratification, which I view as a far less noble of an ambition.
Thats a good point. Wangruo, if you got questions or want to discuss more on this point I'm sure you can PM any of the people who gave you useful answers and they'd be glad to elaborate on any points made or answer any questions that you may have.
I think we're definitely on the same page with this topic and we just got this good cop/bad cop thing going on.
This of course goes along with other questions I've already addressed such as "Is this effect congruent with my personality?".
In my personal opinion I find that just wrong, because, let's imagine for a moment that someone here actually gives him a 100% fool's proof way to get a kiss everytime. What would happen? The guy would stop performing magic, his only interest would be to get kisses. he wouldn't aim to entertein people, or to perform magic. His sole purpose by doing magic would be to just get kisses.
But then again, The idea of performing magic with the thought of mind of " I wanna get a kiss" instead of " I want to perform" In my opinion is wrong.
And herein is a cognitive dissonance I see with magicians. We take ourselves so damn seriously that if someone uses a trick as a way to flirt, they need to be burned at the stake. While at the same time, most of us turn a blind eye to the fact that a lot of magicians new and old could not give a **** about other human beings even if you hooked them up to a magical ****-giving machine.
How exactly did we come to draw that line?.
That is one seriously impressive leap of logic. It also shows a rather poor estimation of other people's intelligence.
Doesn't anyone here know what obsession actually is? Am I alone here?......
This goes back to my earlier point of how we take ourselves too god damn seriously.
It's not like that.
Let's be honest for a second here. What's the most important reason behind people learning magic? Being cool is one, and being interesting to women is another.
The thought of "I wanna impress that chick" goes way before the thought of " I want to perform some magic for them" kicks in.
EDIT::// As I said , threads like the one I mentioned earlier are (I think ) the main reason behind this kind of conduct.
You know not everybody thinks of it that way. A lot of people practice magic and perform it because they can use it as a sort of relaxation at home.
It's not like that.
Let's be honest for a second here. What's the most important reason behind people learning magic? Being cool is one, and being interesting to women is another.
The thought of "I wanna impress that chick" goes way before the thought of " I want to perform some magic for them" kicks in.
QFTAn important detail to me with doing magic is if the effect and performance is congruent with your personality. If you aren't the type of person that can casually ask a girl for a kiss on the cheek without doing magic then that is probably why its not working out with the magic.